Marked or Unmarked?

This week in English, our class had a heated debate about what marking is and how the author's view point is different from a guy's view point. While some arguments were not so legitimate and convincing, others were quite compelling and even brought up more debate and discussion. One specific argument was how the author views men as having the option to dress unmarked, while women don't. I said that this was all based on perspective. Most guys wouldn't notice if a girl wore a dress two times in a row, while another girl might. On the other hand, as Stephen said, if a guy wore a really fancy suit all the other guys would notice it while some girls might think it is a regular suit and therefore unmarked. Even though to girls, guys might have the option to be unmarked, some guys might think the same way about girls. If a girl wore sweats in school, no one would care except other girls while if a guy wore only sweats to school then I myself would even notice him and what he is wearing. This also goes along with the other spectrum of clothes-the fancy types. Yes some girls might think a guy is dressed up nice, but they wouldn't be able to discern the small things that other guys might be able to and vice versa. This is only like this because girls don't typically know much about guys dressing and same goes with guys not knowing much about girls dressing. But the worst part about all this is that even though women will judge and oppress other women, they will end up blaming men. I know this might sound outrageous at first, but take a step back and actually think about it. The author of "There is No Unmarked Woman" blames men for what women have to wear and also the fact that men get a choice of being unmarked, but when actually, the author themselves, a woman, is judging and marking the other women at that conference. It is the false accusations and wrongful blame that honestly makes no sense to me. How could one think like this, but then again I am not a woman so how would I know their side of the story/augment. (Not meant to be a dis against women).